The Art Of Self Pleasure ~ Let’s Go Solo Ladies!

The Art Of Self Pleasure

Self pleasure, or masturbation, is a great way to have some solo fun or just release a little tension.

Masturbating will also relight your inner flame if your sex drive is somewhat lacking. The more sex we have the more our body wants/needs, so practicing the “art of self pleasure” 2 or 3 times a week can rapidly have you wanting more sex more often.

If touching yourself feels good and the way you plan to go about it causes no risk of injury, then you should seriously go for it.

So, if you’d like to know a little more about self pleasure, and bringing yourself to climax, let’s get started.

The Art Of Self Pleasure

Masturbation is a great way to find out what turns you on and what kinds of physical touching and fantasies make you most likely to reach the big ‘O’.

Getting In The Mood

The first and most important thing you need to do is get yourself in the mood. Everyone varies in how they like to relax and get themselves ready. Some are in the zone just by lying on the bed and reading an sensual story. You may want to take a shower or a bath and rub on some moisturising cream or light a few candles. You may even like some relaxing background music to get you in the mood.

If you are planning on using a sex toy make sure you have it close at hand. Whatever it is that makes you feel good and puts you in the mood then that’s what you should do.

Make sure you have privacy, you don’t want to be interrupted halfway to paradise. Always make sure you won’t be disturbed, put your phone on to silent and close the door.

Now you’re in the mood, comfortable, relaxed and feeling a little frisky let’s move to the next step.

Stimulating The Clitoris

Now is where the fun begins. We girls are very lucky as we have this little gem called a clitoris. The clitoris serves no other purpose than bringing sexual pleasure. So it would be a shame to let it go to waste.

It is there for your enjoyment only, so start making the most of it. The clitoris when aroused grows a little bigger in size. This is the female version of the penis, so you can stroke it and play with it in much the same way.

Slowly begin to gently rub your fingers over your clitoris. For some ladies rubbing directly may be too sensitive, try rubbing around the area instead for a more indirect contact.

You will learn to know how and where to touch yourself for the best feeling the more you play. Get to know your own body, what feels good, what doesn’t etc.

You may want to use a vibrating sex toy to stimulate yourself by gently passing the head of the vibrator around the clitoral area. If it’s too sensitive turn down the speed of the vibrations. You can also use a piece of fabric to put between you and the toy to lessen the effect.

There are many vibrators to choose from, you may want to try different toys on different days with different speeds and vibrations.

Always use a lubricant when using sex toys to ensure you don’t cause yourself any harm.

The removable shower head is also very sensually stimulating.  If you can regulate the flow of water find a setting that gives you a steady stream of water building up to a strong jet and move it around letting the H2O stimulate your senses.

Be careful not to shoot strong streams of water into your vagina for too long  as this could cause trapped air (which isn’t pleasant).

Some people just enjoy a pillow between their legs to rub against. Squeeze your thighs around a nice soft pillow or cushion or any other soft object you prefer. Start to gently rock your pelvis up and down causing the fabric to gently stimulate your clitoris.

This is a nice feeling as you are not touching yourself so it feels like someone else. Imagine rubbing yourself against and squeezing on your ideal man’s thigh for example.

There are so many ways you can stimulate this tiny little pleasure pot so find one that suits you.

With all the above methods it’s best if you start off massaging your clitoris slowly and gently and gradually build up how intensely you touch it as you are reaching your climax. Then as you climax, ease off as it will be incredibly sensitive to touch. Sometimes it’s almost unbearable to touch the clitoris once orgasm has been reached.

Sometimes on other occasions you will be able to ride the orgasm into a second wave of ecstasy, these orgasms are the best.

Stimulating The Vagina

Sometimes you want nothing more than good penetrative sex. In this case you need to call in the trusty dildo.

A dildo is a non vibrating sex toy that will happily replace your fella’s penis. They are also plentiful on the market and come in an abundance of shapes and sizes.

With the dildo thrusting inside you, you still have a free hand to stimulate your clitoris. This gives you the best of both worlds. It takes a little more effort but is a lot of fun. You can always use your fingers if you don’t like the idea of a dildo.

Don’t Forget Your Breasts

Squeezing and flicking the nipples can also add to the enjoyment of all of the above. Your nipples will shrink and harden when aroused, sometimes just running a fingertip gently around the nipple can cause all kinds of great sensations. Your breasts are an erogenous zone and should never be overlooked.


There is no wrong or right way to masturbate so don’t dismay.

You can be dressed or undressed, sitting up or lying down, whatever feels good for you is the right way. Get to know your body, every nook and crevice could be holding some sensual delight, if you don’t explore you won’t find out.

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By Amanda Carrington

Amanda Carrington
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