Female Fantasies ~ Inside Women’s Sexy Minds!

Female Fantasies

Female Fantasies

We all have them, some softer and some harder than others. People tend to think the fairer sex have more dreamy fantasies about knights in shining armour etc. Not true, women’s fantasies are a lot dirtier than you think.

I think fantasies get dirtier or at least more uninhibited as we get older. I certainly have wilder fantasies now than I did at 20 for example. I remember reading a book by Nancy Friday when I was in my early twenties about female fantasies and was quite shocked to see just how many things we ladies could conjure up with our imagination.

We certainly have the imaginative gene on our side, we can close our eyes and picture perfectly a scene before us whereas men prefer/need visual stimulation.

Sexual Fantasies

Here are a few “Women’s Favourite Fantasies”, this is based on a survey so please don’t take this as gospel but merely as an indicator. Also, have a browse through Nancy Fridays’ My Secret Garden to read some real women’s fantasies if you don’t believe me.

Being Overpowered

Ok, you may be surprised to hear that being overpowered by a man comes high up on the list of female fantasies. Women fantasise about their partners grabbing them right there and then with or without permission. Imagine your partner walks into the room and just throws you on the sofa and takes you by force. Most psychologists believe this top 10 female sex fantasy allows a woman to have the wild, dirty sex she craves, without having to suffer the dirty feeling that often follows.

I have to hold my hands up here and say this fantasy has crossed my mind on various occasions. Most women like a powerful man and a dominating male in the bedroom can be quite exciting. Also men in suits or uniform as these both give a sense of power and make a man very attractive to us.


Another Fantasy up there at the top of the list is Exhibitionism.

Yes, it’s true. Many women get excited at the thought of someone watching them having sex or masturbating. Unfortunately, most women are far too body-conscious to experiment with such things, making this a top 10 female sex fantasy, as opposed to a reality.

Imagine having sex near a window thinking someone was watching you and getting excited by you. Imagine being out in a public place, a field, a park, a car-park knowing that someone could walk by any moment and see you. The thought of getting caught certainly gets the adrenalin pumping for many women including myself.

Group Sex or Threesome

Group Sex or Threesome is also high upon the female fantasy list. Women would ideally have a hot guy in the bedroom as the extra body as opposed to the Number One male fantasy of two women. The number of men in these fantasies varies ranging from 3 to 10 men touching her and getting aroused by her at once.

A threesome would normally involve two hot men totally ravishing her body in unison. Lower down on the list comes a threesome including another woman. I presume it’s lower down as most women don’t want to share their man with another woman, not even in their fantasies.

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It’s interesting to find out what actually goes through the female mind when it comes to fantasies. Our imagination is so powerful we can create the most realistic scenarios behind our eyelids. Who needs porn when you can just close your eyes and create your own sexy scene. The list of our dirty thoughts is long so I shall carry on this topic another day.

Enigma was always my favourite bedroom music, it always conjured up the most erotic images for me. One of the songs had the voice of an Indian chanting, Return To Innocence Enigma. I would close my eyes and watch him dance in a loincloth around an open fire. He was a beautiful red Indian man with a perfect body and long hair held back from his face with a headband. I would be the sacrifice at the end of the ritual he performed, only being sacrificed meant he had his wicked way with me.

This was a fantasy of mine for years until my husband bought the Enigma DVD for me one year for Christmas. With all the music videos on one disc I was so excited to see them, I ran upstairs and stuck it straight in the DVD. Imagine my total disappointment when an old man with no teeth wearing a flat cap and herding goats filled the screen along with the voice of my beautiful Indian. Needless to say that was the end of my fantasy, I will never hear the song again without seeing that face.

So, what are your fantasies?

Any of the above? I’d love to hear if you’d like to share, just leave a comment below.

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Comments to “Female Fantasies ~ Inside Women’s Sexy Minds!”

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    I would definitely say these are all 3 top fantasies. Mine-exhibitionism. Back seat of a car in public place, picnic table in park, in front of giant windows, mmmmm all sizzling hot. Biggest fantasy is in front of tall, loft type windows. I get turned on just walking into a space like that!

    As I’ve grown older I am much less inhibited and go full force for fantasies. Life is too short for regrets.
    This site is incredible and I commend you on it. Big fan. Thank you!

    • Administrator

      Thank you so much for this wonderful comment. I am very happy you are enjoying our website.I agree, we do get more inhibited and adventurous with age.
      Amanda x

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    I’m looking forward to part 2 of this. Women are such deliciously complex creatures and a lifetime of study just isn’t enough.
    I’m curious to see how male and female fantasies are different… and more importantly where they meet.

    • Administrator

      You have up to Part 4 to enjoy Andy :)x

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    I continue to be impressed with this site and with the topics. I am very lucky to have a loving husband that indulges me in many ways including wanting to know my fantasies. We have even been able to act out a couple. I have even begun to show him some of posts from here. I can tell you it definitely has added some additional spice to our alone time.

    I have had participated in two of the three you noted above, Exhibition and Threesome, I will leave out the details but will say I had the time of my life. I must say the Exhibition gave me a bigger thrill. Even now I think fondly back to the adventure and look forward to trying it again! In that I am usually the aggressor, I am not sure how I truly feel about being “Overpowered.” It does give me a bit a tingle to think about and that leads me to think it’s something that may actually work for me. It definitely mean exploring a different side of things for me and I am always up for exploration. I think I have a new topic of discussion for the hubby!!

    Thank you,


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    My fantasies definitely are about a threesome, used to be about my partner and his brother…but ever since I’ve been on Twitter, they’ve been replaced by two hot Twitter men!

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    Amanda Carrington!!! It’s a nice blog about female fantasies. It’s true that every woman has some fantasies about her partner. Female fantasies are good for warm sex. Women can really talk about dirty things in bed. This does turn on both partners. Your blog helps me a lot to read about female fantasies and looking for your next post. 

    • Administrator

      Emerson, Thank you so much for your kind words. Part two of female Fantasies will be coming this week. Yes, women are complex creatures with dirty minds. I’m happy you enjoyed the blog and hopefully you will enjoy part two just as much. More female fantasies coming real soon. Have a beautiful day.

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      Your blog got me thinking about some of the fantasies I had years ago in my 20s. I enjoyed reading Bertrice Small’s books or the ones about pirates on the high seas. I enjoyed more of the historical romance books with strong male characters that conjured up all sorts of scenarios. It was when I first met my husband who was a Navy diver with dark hair and beautiful blue eyes and very inventive. He had stubble before it was fashionable. It’s sexy 😉 **fans self** I’m a big fan of Enigma and have all their CDs. They are perfect for a romantic evening. After reading FSOG and especially the Gabriel series, I have a new set of fantasies. 😉 Great blog!


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