We all have them, some softer and some harder than others. People tend to think the fairer sex have more dreamy fantasies about knights in shining armour etc. Not true, women’s fantasies are a lot dirtier than you think.
I think fantasies get dirtier or at least more uninhibited as we get older. I certainly have wilder fantasies now than I did at 20 for example. I remember reading a book by Nancy Friday when I was in my early twenties about female fantasies and was quite shocked to see just how many things we ladies could conjure up with our imagination.
We certainly have the imaginative gene on our side, we can close our eyes and picture perfectly a scene before us whereas men prefer/need visual stimulation.
Here are a few “Women’s Favourite Fantasies”, this is based on a survey so please don’t take this as gospel but merely as an indicator. Also, have a browse through Nancy Fridays’ My Secret Garden to read some real women’s fantasies if you don’t believe me.
Ok, you may be surprised to hear that being overpowered by a man comes high up on the list of female fantasies. Women fantasise about their partners grabbing them right there and then with or without permission. Imagine your partner walks into the room and just throws you on the sofa and takes you by force. Most psychologists believe this top 10 female sex fantasy allows a woman to have the wild, dirty sex she craves, without having to suffer the dirty feeling that often follows.
I have to hold my hands up here and say this fantasy has crossed my mind on various occasions. Most women like a powerful man and a dominating male in the bedroom can be quite exciting. Also men in suits or uniform as these both give a sense of power and make a man very attractive to us.
Another Fantasy up there at the top of the list is Exhibitionism.
Yes, it’s true. Many women get excited at the thought of someone watching them having sex or masturbating. Unfortunately, most women are far too body-conscious to experiment with such things, making this a top 10 female sex fantasy, as opposed to a reality.
Imagine having sex near a window thinking someone was watching you and getting excited by you. Imagine being out in a public place, a field, a park, a car-park knowing that someone could walk by any moment and see you. The thought of getting caught certainly gets the adrenalin pumping for many women including myself.
Group Sex or Threesome
Group Sex or Threesome is also high upon the female fantasy list. Women would ideally have a hot guy in the bedroom as the extra body as opposed to the Number One male fantasy of two women. The number of men in these fantasies varies ranging from 3 to 10 men touching her and getting aroused by her at once.
A threesome would normally involve two hot men totally ravishing her body in unison. Lower down on the list comes a threesome including another woman. I presume it’s lower down as most women don’t want to share their man with another woman, not even in their fantasies.
It’s interesting to find out what actually goes through the female mind when it comes to fantasies. Our imagination is so powerful we can create the most realistic scenarios behind our eyelids. Who needs porn when you can just close your eyes and create your own sexy scene. The list of our dirty thoughts is long so I shall carry on this topic another day.
Enigma was always my favourite bedroom music, it always conjured up the most erotic images for me. One of the songs had the voice of an Indian chanting, Return To Innocence Enigma. I would close my eyes and watch him dance in a loincloth around an open fire. He was a beautiful red Indian man with a perfect body and long hair held back from his face with a headband. I would be the sacrifice at the end of the ritual he performed, only being sacrificed meant he had his wicked way with me.
This was a fantasy of mine for years until my husband bought the Enigma DVD for me one year for Christmas. With all the music videos on one disc I was so excited to see them, I ran upstairs and stuck it straight in the DVD. Imagine my total disappointment when an old man with no teeth wearing a flat cap and herding goats filled the screen along with the voice of my beautiful Indian. Needless to say that was the end of my fantasy, I will never hear the song again without seeing that face.
So, what are your fantasies?
Any of the above? I’d love to hear if you’d like to share, just leave a comment below.
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